It Tastes Like Chicken!

If you’ve seen my blog before, you’ll have noticed that I LOVE finding social skill nuance references in commercials and on TV. I know it’s been a few months, but last week I found a new one and it’s great!

The way you say things matters. Your TONE OF VOICE can easily change the meaning of what you say. Just watch this Wendy’s commercial to see how the same sentence can mean two very different things.

Wendy’s Commercial: It Tastes Like Chicken!

If you have students that struggle understanding differences in tone of voice or students who struggle monitoring their own tone of voice, check out my new Teachers Pay Teachers activity here:

Social Skills: Context Based Informal Assessment of Tone of Voice

Enjoy!

Catherine,

The Creative SLP

Babies are the World’s Best Scientists and Their Experiments are called PLAY

Tonight I stumbled on an amazing and informative documentary on Netflix called, The Beginning of Life. If you work with babies, young children or have children of your own, stop what you’re doing and go add it to your watch list right now. In my career as a pediatric speech-language pathologist, I work with many children under the age of 3. When watching this documentary, I found myself rewinding and listening over and over to the very helpful brain science nuggets this documentary contains.  I can’t wait to share these nuggets with my clients’ parents to help them understand and value the importance of play. So many parents want to focus on the fact that their child is not yet using words. They don’t always understand the importance and significance of play and social development during the first 3 years of life.

My favorite nugget was from Jack P. Shonkoff, M.D. when he was discussing the importance of providing a balance of challenge and support during play with young children:

“What [babies and young children] need is that little bit of challenge and the frustration that goes with not being able to do something so easily so that you work at it. It’s not only working at it to master that skill. It’s working at it develop a sense of what it’s like to work for something that’s not that easy. If you never get that experience… If every time you try something that’s a little bit frustrating, an adult comes in and does it for you, how do you learn how to deal with frustration?”

So, the next time you interact with your baby or young child, focus less on the words they are able to use and more on how they are exploring and interacting with the world. How are they taking in their environment? How are they solving problems and exploring the world around them? How much are you letting them figure things out on their own? Are you letting them fail so that they can learn how to succeed?

Executive Functions: Help your students develop and strenghten their own inner voice

If you’ve visited my blog before, you know I love using commercials to help get a conversation going with students about a topic. So, when I saw this Nike commercial it reignited my interest in helping students develop and strengthen their executive functioning skills. Use this video to help explain and teach executive functions to your students.

 

A few years ago, I was part of a team that developed a program to help middle schoolers learn how to use “self-talk” to navigate social situations and problem solve situations on their own. What we discovered in the process was that many students lack the inner dialogue necessary to effectively complete school tasks, figure out social situations, and get to where they needed to be on time and with the necessary materials.

The culture in schools is slowly changing, but for the most part, executive functions are not directly taught in schools. And, many school-aged students simply have not developed the skills necessary to get their work done and be socially successful in school.

So my advice to parents and educators would be…

DO NOT ASSUME children have fully developed organizational systems to complete tasks or socially savvy inner dialogues to navigate nuanced situations.

It’s your responsibility to explicitly teach them and provide opportunities for them to develop and refine these executive functioning skills.

I have found many resources out there to help students become more aware of the ability to use an inner dialogue to help them problem solve and successfully navigate the social world. See one of my favorites below.

The Zones of Regulation

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I’ve also created many activities and resources for building executive functioning skills. Check out my two most recent creations.

BUNDLE Build Social Skills with Executive Functioning Activities

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Executive Functions Informal Assessment Questionnaire 

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When you’ve taken the time to help your students build stronger executive functioning skills, use your own “self-talk” to tell yourself, “Good job.” ; )

 

 

 

Who? What? When? Where? Why?

The ability to appropriately answer abstract questions is an important developmental language skill. In order to accurately answer these questions, children must understand what each question word is asking.

See below for normal developing ages for answering “wh” questions:

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A great way to help children develop and refine their ability to answer “wh” questions is through story time with books that are simple in plot, repetitive in writing style, and include lots of great visuals.  There are a lot of children’s books out there and many of them for younger children lack the content needed to elicit these “wh” questions. Many younger children’s books are simply images with vocabulary images and labels. While these books are helpful, they don’t promote the development of more abstract language understanding.

However, I came across a book that’s great for young children and promotes the development of “wh” questions.

You can find it on Amazon by clicking the link below:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0692735348

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Mimi and Moto was written by Nancy Gerloff and Mark Augustyn. http://mimiandmoto.com/

 
I also recently created a visual resource to help children more effectively answer “wh” questions for my Teachers Pay Teachers site. I’ve been using this idea for years, but have always just used blank paper and basic drawings to teach the different “wh” types. I’m sure my clients will appreciate not having to view my awful stick figure drawings. You can find it here:
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When it comes to social skills, CONTEXT matters!

I’m starting to think that the advertising team working for State Farm HAS TO HAVE a speech-language pathologist on their team because all of their recent commercials are all related to tone of voice and/or context!

When it comes to social skills, CONTEXT is very important. You can say one thing in one place or situation and it will mean one thing, but if you say the SAME thing in another context, it can totally have a different meaning.

Use this commercial to get a conversation going with your students about the importance of context when it comes to social skills.

When it comes to social situations, some things are “OK” to DO in one context, and considered not “OK” in another. Students who struggle with social skills have a hard time figuring this out. They may start digging for a booger in the middle of class and not understand why that is SO not “OK” and the entire class is screaming, “Eeeewwww!”

You may find it uncomfortable to think about, but I explain to my students that it’s not “OK” to pick your nose in public, but it IS totally “OK” to do so in the privacy of your home as long as you use a tissue to discard of the findings and wash your hands after. You know you do it too… Don’t deny it.

The booger picking example is an extreme one but actually the list of examples of how context matters goes on an on. The booger one is just an attention grabbing one that most students can relate to.

When it comes to social skills, CONTEXT matters when it comes to what is considered “OK” to say and do. I love using this book to help my students learn more about context and the role it plays.

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I’ve also created an activity on my Teachers Pay Teachers site to help students learn and discuss this topic. Check it out here.

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Talk with your students and come up with a list of what’s “OK” and not “OK” to SAY and DO in different contexts and don’t forget to laugh and have fun with it!

 

 

My Friends Can Tell What I’m Thinking

“My friends know me so well. They can tell what I’m thinking just by looking in my eyes.” -Jennifer Aniston

Jennifer Aniston’s friends must have good social awareness! They are able to tell what she’s thinking by looking at her eyes. I suspect… is what they’re REALLY doing is looking not only at her eyes, but checking in with her entire face and body to figure out what she’s thinking. They are observing and paying attention to her non-verbal language.

Non-verbal language is how we communicate nearly half of our verbal message! Many students struggle to pick up on this social skill. Think about how much meaning they are missing or how much they misunderstand if they struggle to understand the importance that non-verbal language has on communicating meaning.

What IS non-verbal language? Well, in the most basic sense non-verbal language includes:

  • Facial expressions- Movement of eyebrows, eyes, forehead, cheeks, lips, etc.
  • Body Language- Posture, hand gestures, proximity or change in closeness during social interaction,  etc.
  • Tone of Voice- Differences in the way the voice sounds, different stress or emphasis placed on  words or phrases

If Jennifer Aniston wasn’t trying to sell eye care products, she would’ve said,

“My friends know me so well. They can tell what I’m thinking by paying attention to my entire body and to the way my voice sounds.”

Use this commercial to get a conversation going with your children or students about the importance of non-verbal language and the meaning it conveys or how it can change the meaning of what people communicate.

I’ve created some lessons specifically teaching non-verbal language and the importance of paying attention to it during social interaction on my Teachers Pay Teachers page. You can find them by clicking the links below:

Non-Verbal Language                

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    How Do You Communicate Without Talking?

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Click below for a helpful article written by Michelle Garcia Winner about the importance of attending to non-verbal language:

4 Steps to Communication

Enjoy (non-verbal head nod given)!

Cat Tintle, M. Ed. CCC-SLP

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Why Work on Social Skills?

The internationally known psychologist Dr. Daniel Goleman published the books Emotional Intelligence: Why it Can Matter More than IQ and  Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships around a decade ago.

He believes (and I do too) that skills such as self awareness, emotional mastery, motivation, empathy and social effectiveness have a greater impact than traditional intelligence on career success.

To learn more about the importance of social intelligence, watch this talk he gave at Google in 2007:

Or click here

Another innovator in the field of social cognition is Michelle Garcia Winner. She is a speech and language pathologist who has devoted her career to helping those with social cognitive deficits. When attending one of her Social Thinking conferences a few years back she beautifully explained the importance of social skills.

She explained that our social skills directly impact how others feel about us. This impacts how we are treated, how we feel about others, and ultimately, how we feel about ourselves. 

To learn more, watch this video where she speaks about her approach:

Or click here

At her Social Thinking conference, I also loved how she defined SOCIAL SKILLS. She defined social skills as “adapting effectively with others” and “sharing space effectively”.

That really put things into perspective for me. Being social is not just about conversational rules to follow and having good eye contact. Social skills is about judging each situation you’re in and figuring out what’s expected for that situation. When I first began helping students with social skills, we talked about following the rules of conversation. That meant making sure to say hello, trying to keep conversations going, remembering not to interrupt others and making sure to look at others when speaking. Now I’ve learned that it’s much more complex than that.

Now I help students become social observers who focus less on rules to follow and more about thinking about each social situation and what’s expected for that specific situation. I help them build self-talk so they can:

Think About Their Own Thinking     

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& Think About the Thinking of Others

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I help them learn and realize for themselves that social rules change based on the situation. So in order to be an effective social communicator, you must learn to pay attention to many things. You must use executive functions to build awareness of yourself, understand the thoughts of others, and be a problem solver based on the clues you’re getting from others’ non-verbal language and tone of voice. You must make inferences based on the context and prior knowledge because often people say one thing, but mean the opposite and/or they don’t actually say what they truly mean.

To get the conversation going with your students or your children, ask them to define what they think social skills means. I’m always surprised to see how they verbalize it. Once you do that, then you can help them build the skills they need to effectively adapt to different social situations and share space effectively with others.

Here are a few very useful materials I’ve discovered over the years to help students build better social language skills over the years.

Dude That’s Rude

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Social Lang. Development Scenes

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Social Thinking Thinksheets

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I’ve also created many of my own activities on my Teachers Pay Teachers site so check those out too.