I love using witty commercials to get a conversation going with my clients about the importance of social skills and these two Citibank commercials are perfect!
I love Citibank’s tagline: Wouldn’t it be great if everyone said what they meant?
For people who struggle with social skills, life would be easier if everyone said what they meant.
This is especially true when dating. People want to avoid awkward moments, so they mask their true intentions with niceties. Most people want to avoid hurting others’ feelings so they tell “white lies”.
Some cultures use more direct language but here in America, our language is filled with indirect and implied language in order to reduce awkward situations and appear more polite and agreeable. So, it’s important to think about others’ thinking to figure out people’s true intentions.
After you show these commercials (use dating video only for older student), use examples like this to keep the conversation going about the need to think about others’ thinking:
This is a conversation that happens on a regular basis in my home. My husband gets a lot of practice thinking about my thinking just to figure out what’s for dinner! The implied language is in parentheses.
Husband: What should we eat for dinner?
Me: I doesn’t matter. (It does matter)
Husband: We could make hamburgers.
Me: We could… or we could make tacos. (I don’t want hamburgers)
Husband: What about steak?
Me: We already have the ‘fixins for tacos. (I don’t want steak either)
Husband: Ok… Tacos it is.
Me: Perfect! That was easy.
Husband: It SURE was. (It was NOT easy. Why didn’t you just say you wanted tacos in the first place?)
Use this visual to help your students or clients think about the thinking of others. Help them learn to pick up on clues from context, tone of voice, and body language to help them figure out what people REALLY mean. Then, ask them to come up with their own examples of how people don’t always say what they mean.
Get creative and have fun!
Michelle Garcia Winner has a great book that contains many useful worksheets related to indirect and implied language. I couldn’t do my job without this book!
You can purchase it here: Social Thinking Thinksheets for Tweens and Teens
Check out my Teachers Pay Teachers site for more social skills activities. You can find it here: The Creative SLP