What You Say Isn’t Always What You Mean

I love using witty commercials to get a conversation going with my clients about the importance of social skills and these two Citibank commercials are perfect!

I love Citibank’s tagline: Wouldn’t it be great if everyone said what they meant?¬†

For people who struggle with social skills, life would be easier if everyone said what they meant.

This is especially true when dating. People want to avoid awkward moments, so they mask their true intentions with niceties. Most people want to avoid hurting others’ feelings so they tell “white¬†lies”.

Some cultures use more direct language but here in America, our language is filled with indirect and implied language in order to reduce awkward situations and appear more polite and agreeable. ¬†So, it’s important to think about others’ thinking¬†to figure out people’s true intentions.

After you show these commercials, use examples like this to keep the conversation going about the need to think about others’ thinking:

This is a¬†conversation that happens on a regular basis in my home. My husband gets a lot of practice thinking about my thinking just to figure out what’s for dinner! The implied language is in parentheses.

Husband: What should we eat for dinner?  

Me: I doesn’t matter. (It does matter)

Husband: We could make hamburgers.

Me: We could… or we could make tacos. (I don’t want hamburgers)

Husband: What about steak?

Me: We already have the ‘fixins for tacos. (I don’t want steak either)

Husband: Ok… Tacos it is.

Me: Perfect! That was easy.

Husband: It SURE¬†was. (It was NOT easy. Why didn’t you just say you wanted tacos in¬†the first place?)

Screen Shot 2016-09-03 at 10.22.31 AM

Use this visual to help your students or clients think about the thinking of others. Help them learn to pick up on clues from context, tone of voice, and body language to help them figure out what people REALLY mean. Then, ask them¬†to come up with their own examples of how people don’t always say what they mean.

Get creative and have fun!

Michelle Garcia Winner ¬†has a great book that contains many useful worksheets related to indirect and implied language. I couldn’t do my job without this book!

Screen Shot 2016-09-03 at 12.00.00 PM

You can purchase it here:   Social Thinking Thinksheets for Tweens and Teens

Check out my Teachers Pay Teachers site for more social skills activities. You can find it here: The Creative SLP

2 Questions for YOU and YOUR Students

The beginning of a school year is a great time to do some self-reflection and goal setting, for both students and teachers. This year, try a more creative approach to help them reflect and set goals for the year. Instead of the boring, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” or “What do you want to accomplish this year?” show your students this video and have them answer these 2 questions:

Two questions that can change your life from Daniel Pink on Vimeo.

Daniel Pink’s book, Drive¬†has been out for years, but I still get the best ideas from it and apply it to my work with children and education. I’ve been thinking a lot about executive functions lately and this video fits perfectly with the use of “self-talk”. Asking your students to think about their own life and encouraging them to ask themselves what they want to be remembered by will help motivate them throughout the year.

After they write their own sentence, help them create a visual art representation of it¬†to feature their sentence and display it in the classroom. At the end of the week, have them reflect back on their week and answer the 2nd question. Have them write a few sentences and answer what went well and what they could have done differently. When I worked in a school, my teacher friend and I actually submitted a video with our sentence and our students’ sentences. Daniel Pink used a few of them in this video! See if you can spot me in it at 1:43 ¬†: )

What’s Your Sentence?: The Video from Daniel Pink on Vimeo

Here’s my sentence for this year:

“She helped teachers and students develop and discover a love for creativity and passion.”

What’s yours?

 

Discover more great ideas from Daniel Pink here: http://www.danpink.com/

welcome to my blog

catherinecolor copy

I’ve always wanted to start a blog, but never felt I ever had the time that was necessary for me to be proud of the end result. I procrastinated¬†for nearly 12 years as I worked as a speech-language pathologist. I initially worked in the public school system, then in private schools, and ultimately and currently¬†in a pediatric therapy clinic. Oddly enough, I somehow found the time over the years to develop profiles on Teachers Pay Teachers, Pinterest, Twitter and Instagram. I’ve had so much fun working on those profiles that now I feel I have no more excuses. I no longer have school faculty meetings or IEP meetings to attend, so NOW is the time! Over the years, I’ve developed a passion for many areas in the field of speech-language pathology, education, and brain research. My hope is that this blog will be a useful resource for parents, slps, educators, and kids as a go-to for all things speech-language, as well other topics that interest me. I hope you ENJOY!